The World As Mare Sees It...
To Flirt Or Not To Flirt 2002-11-01










Operation Mini-skirt Status: -28 lbs.

Days to England: 12

Mood: Eh. Neither here nor there. Aiming for up as the day goes on though.

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flirt (flūrt) v. flirt·ed, flirt·ing, flirts v. intr.

To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.

To deal playfully, triflingly, or superficially with: flirt with danger.

To move abruptly or jerkily.

... Well now, I don't know if I rightly agree with all that. Somehow, that makes it all sound... kinda obvious and cheap. There's this character in Judith Krantz's I'll Take Manhattan... she ends up having an affair with Maxi's father, but that's a whole 'nother story. Anyway, her M.O. is fabulously grand, wonderfully old fashioned flirting. She doesn't do it consciously, nor does she restrict it to men with whom she wants to get biblical. She flirts with doormen and matronly cashiers and saleswomen. She flirts with married men, and their wives, and their children. She flirts with the postman. She does it without knowing she does it, which is what makes it so endearing.

Endearing. Isn't that what flirting really is? To endear yourself to someone else? To flash a dazzling smile in someone's direction, or give him or her an audacious wink as they pass you in the hall? To share a look that's full of quiet mirth, as if you find something marvellously funny with the world, and they're the only ones who 'get it' as well?

Flirting is not just for the handsome sailor you meet in a bar, you know. Sure, if you do it right, if you touch the right place on his arm, if you smile brilliantly, it'll get you a drink, a date, and a doozy of a story to tell the girls the next day. But flirting also goes along with the likes of duking the maitre d’hotel, tipping the blackjack dealer, palming the bouncer... but anyone can slip or flip a couple of bucks here and there.

The high roller will always be remembered because of what comes out of her pockets. The flirt gets remembered regardless of the small bill, because she palmed it with a sparkle in her eye. You're not just gaining're gaining a friend. Doing it promotes harmony amongst strangers, which is always a terribly good thing to do, isn't it?

Someone called me a big flirt once. I couldn't think of a nicer compliment!

Have a lovely weekend, everybody!

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